The Zen of not worrying.

“Do you know what happens when you decide to stop worrying about what other people might think of you? You get to dance. You get to sing. You get to laugh loudly, paint, write, and create. You get to be yourself. And you know what? Some people won’t like you. Some will laugh or mock or point out flaws…but it just won’t bother you all that much.” – Doe Zantamata

This is so truthful in my perspective. Worrying about what other people think has kept me from doing things, taking risks, having adventures, and embracing life more times than I care to remember. And it never really mattered. Because either none of those people I was worried about cared a rats ass about me, it was simply social posturing and ego. or I simply made up what other people “might” think of me and reacted to that. Most people simply don’t care what your doing except for a momentary snapshot of attention and then it’s gone. How do I know that? Because that’s my experience of others. Nothing lasts very long in the “minds eye.” (That sounded really neat but I’m not exactly sure of what that is!”)

So Dance, Sing, Write, Create, and always speak your truthful position. People will do what people do, and you get to have the reward of experiencing who you are without any mask. How amazing and wonderful.

The image posted on this blog is something I did last year. I have no explanation of it outside that it was fun to do while listening to Arcade Fire, one of my favorite bands. (I have a lot of favorite bands.) People will like it, not like it, or just don’t care. All of which is super!!! Because to me it’s a little bit of me that’s fun to share because I like it. I care deeply about it for no reason at all! Express yourself with love and wonder!!!!

Express something today that adds to your world.

Bryan Wagner

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  1. YES to all of it! I live my life this way and oh boy is it freedom ❤ I always say, “what other people think of me is none of my business”. These days I honestly have 0 concerns over others anyways since we all exist in our own realities. Do no harm and carry on I say. Great post Bryan!

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  2. The image is very beautiful 🤩
    I find I’m more free and silly when alone, out with others, no matter how welcoming and silly they themselves are I don’t goof around much. No matter how much I plan beforehand to just chill and be myself (which they don’t know), I end up being the me they do know. But I love my alone moments ❣️.


  3. It’s taken me so long to address this one, Bryan. But for the most part, I’m done with it – caring too much what other people think. It comes from a place of insecurity, so working with the underlying causes helps big time and brings much more freedom. My sister has a male friend who rubs people up the wrong way, he can be pretty insulting, but has no control over it – part of his bipolar nature. He upset me a couple of times and he doesn’t do apologies. Eventually, when I didn’t care anymore, I said to my sister, he’s fine if you have no insecurities about yourself – so our later encounters were argumentative but not serious, water off a ducks back and what a great feeling! Hope you are okay in these times. I should get back to blogging, but waiting for the time that feels right. :>)

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    1. I still care what other people think, but I also know it doesn’t really matter. I think, for me, conditioning is pretty deep on this but good for you that you can notice and redirect!!! One of my guides told me there is always going to be someone who triggers me, my job is not to change them but notice my reaction and redirect. Sigh.
      You will blog when you are ready. For me it makes little sense to blog because I feel I must because of some inner authority. I love you blogs. I am doing OK considering how absolutely bizarre our lives have become. Take care of you, smile today!!!!!

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