The Tao of No Explanation

A healthy self-love means we have no compulsion to justify to ourselves or others why we take vacations, why we sleep late, why we buy new shoes, why we spoil ourselves from time to time. We feel comfortable doing things which add quality and beauty to life.” –Andrew Matthews

For me, part of accepting self-care and maturity means we don’t necessarily need to offer explanations about why we take care of ourselves. This also means the ability to self-express without needing to explain or justify ourselves to others. If I believe I need to justify my self-expression then it’s no longer genuine and not going to express directly what I intended to express. This is more challenging than it seems, we are heavily conditioned to want approval and validation even while attempting to nurture our own needs. I find this is important for those of us who love to express ourselves as artists and creators.

Take care of you, express that part of you that values life!

Bryan Wagner

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  1. I’m trying to work on this too, Bryan – the needing to look after myself in the midst of pending justifications which play through my mind regarding family concerns which I’ve just posted about after a long time gap. You post is a lovely reminder of how to try to keep it simple :>)


    1. Thanks, I do experience that if I stay in the moments in which I exist whatever is directly in front of me isn’t complicated. Until I start paying attention to the stream of thoughts manipulations and stories about what is. I find the work of paying attention somewhat intriguing. Thank you for commenting!


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